Do we love eccentrics, those who constantlyattracts attention by strange and incomprehensible actions? Hardly, rather, they are amused, they are considered funny and even afraid. Adequate people, unlike those who constantly drop out of the norms and standards of communication, are much more pleasant and reliable.
The word itself is of Latin origin. Adaequare - "equate, identify." Consequently, adequate people are those whose
Of course, history knows many examples of vivid,extraordinary actions. Let us recall Khrushchev's famous shoe. And it's not always necessary to say only what is expected of us. It's not about the essence, but about the form.
Often what is obvious to us and notrequiring additional comments, for our foreign guests or interlocutors may seem strange or even offensive. For example, it is natural for Russians to visit each other without warning, just "drop by a glass of tea." But the German in this situation will not understand you and will even be indignant at your impudence. There it is customary to warn and agree in advance about the visit.
Although the mentality has a very significant impact on allsphere of human life. Take, for example, such a concept as adequate self-esteem, that is, not too high and not too low, corresponding to reality. But even here the very differences creep in. If modesty is considered a virtue for a Russian or an Asian, then, say, an American or a Spaniard does not hesitate in the most favorable light to present all his achievements, embellishing them and once again stressing. Much depends on education, on the model of behavior adopted in the family. But all this is influenced also by the established system of values.
And it is they who determine whether adequaterelationship between two people. Will participants in the group meet their roles, mutual expectations, norms, also depends on many factors. One thing remains certain: that the standards are observed, they must be clear and obvious.