Every person comes to this world,to find their love. Therefore, practically everything we do in life is connected with the desire to find happiness with the very one that is destined for destiny. Unfortunately, there are people who can not translate the dream into reality and build strong relationships that will eventually grow into a family. And every new novel in such people ends with a complete fiasco and a disappointment in love as such. Why is it unlucky to love young and beautiful girls? Why does the relationship with partners that are completely different at first glance end in the same way? What to do in this situation and how to find happiness in love? Let's try to understand this difficult problem.
Why is he unlucky in love?Esoteric and magic are always ready to give a single answer to this question - the corruption and the crown of celibacy. Naturally, there are impressionable ladies who spend huge sums to remove the alleged damage and become attractive to the opposite sex. However, we will not go into mysticism today, but we will talk about very real situations that lead to repeated lovemaking failures.
Who most often asks the question "Why is not luckyin love? "Of course, the fair sex, they first dream of romantic princes, then - about financially secured brutals, and after the onset of a certain age of simple human happiness next to a caring and reliable man. But more often those who are passionately dreaming of love, constantly failing on a personal front.Why does not she carry a girl who has every chance of becoming happy in love? What prevents her from dealing with men?
Psychologists on this account have their own specialopinion. They argue that it's all about the stereotypical thinking that makes a woman live her life in a certain scenario. And unfortunately, he often has a sad ending.
If after the question asked again“Why is she not lucky in love?”, The woman is still at a loss, then she clearly needs to think about the role she plays in the relationship. Psychologists say that each of us experiences a lifetime of up to a dozen unsuccessful love relationships that have brought some negative experience. And experts do not see anything wrong with that. But in cases when each novel ends with parting, and from the very beginning it is doomed, we are dealing with the programming of the situation peculiar to some women.
Psychologists distinguish five main roles that, to some extent, unlucky women perform in their lives:
So, consider briefly each of these options.
Why are some unlucky in love?Totally and with sad regularity? At the same time, each new cavalier leaves his beloved after a short period of time. The thing is the negative scenario that a woman carries in herself.
Most likely, at a young age she experiencedunsuccessful first love, when a young man very quickly left her and switched to another. Instead of continuing to live on and enjoying life, the rejected girlfriend began to look for the cause in her appearance, words, deeds, and manner of dressing. After much thought, the girl comes to the conclusion that she is unworthy of true love. This leads to the fact that she deliberately avoids relationships with men she liked, and agrees only to those novels where young people immediately choose her. And the gentleman himself may not touch her heart seriously.
But the paradox of the situation is thatlack of confidence in their abilities and the sense of worthlessness that is present in a woman are very well felt by her partner. And therefore, very quickly leaves her alone, even if initially he was passionately in love. The situation is repeated from time to time, thus closing the circle of failures.
There are categories of women who are in any relationship.their chosen ones are changing. They can hide it or do it explicitly, but the fact remains that there is always a rival in their relationship. And it remains faithful beauty only to ask why not luck in love.
It is quite difficult for a woman to understand thatthe cause of constant adultery is herself. After all, such a lady lives with a clear attitude that everything changes, and every pretty girl on the way has every chance of becoming her rival.
Translating into this world a similar scenario, a womanshe herself draws other girls to her chosen one. She does not feel unique, special and extraordinary, therefore she subconsciously competes with other representatives of the fair sex. And the world gives her the opportunity to respond.
There are women whom men constantlyuse for their personal purposes, whether it is a comfortable housing, career or wealth. Why? There is no luck in love for such ladies for one simple reason - they have only one love script in their heads, which implies complete and unconditional submission to a partner with the fulfillment of all his whims.
Such women will forget about themselves to becomefor her chosen kind of good sorceress, always ready to fulfill the wishes of a loved one. No wonder that, having achieved the desired, the man leaves his good fairy and rushes to meet the new love adventures.
This script is a bit like the previous one.A woman believes that she must endure everything that a man does and says. According to her, the only way to build a happy family. She hides her displeasure, never shows offense or disappointment, and tries to always be in an even mood. But a man very quickly becomes fed up with such a relationship, because he cannot determine what is happening in their couple. A woman begins to appear to him boring and uninteresting, respectively, this leads to a break.
Often ladies ask the question "Why is it unlucky withmen in love, self-motivated and self-confident? ", believing that such people must necessarily wrest their happiness from fate. That's just the fact that in the head of such an active person there is the only correct relationship model in which the girl is a hunter, and man is a beast.
According to this scenario, the woman becomesa kind of locomotive in the relationship, sweeping away everything in its path. Such novels usually do not last more than a couple of months, because men cannot exist in the role of a beast for a long time. They very quickly start their own initiative girlfriend and try to break this bond as quickly as possible.
If you did not recognize yourself in previous sectionsarticles and do not have a failure scenario of relationships in your head, you should seriously think about why you are not lucky in love. On this account, psychologists have clearly noticed certain types of women who can not build their relationship and happily get married. There are five such types:
If they are interested in you, then we are ready to characterize each character individually.
It is these ladies most often sigh, wonderingwhy beautiful girls are not lucky in love. Every weekend they are carefully painted, choose the most beautiful and often defiant outfit and go to a bar or a nightclub.
It is very easy to learn a predator bar.She alone or with her friend spends the whole evening at the bar with a glass of cocktail and carefully examines all the men present from under her eyelashes. She gladly responds to any flirting and is completely open to dating. An eloquent Casanova or a gruff Gopnik can seduce her, the main thing is that he pay attention to her.
In fact, the predator desperately needs love,that's just how to look for it, is not. This is what confuses short-term and non-binding connections with something real, which cannot be found in the smoky room of the bar.
Oh, these are just perfect wives!And even sworn girlfriends puzzledly shrug their shoulders, trying to understand and explain to them why they are not lucky in love. Guys, in turn, quite willingly communicate with home hares. And this is not surprising, because they are perfectly educated, well-groomed, they always look one hundred percent and, moreover, they cook perfectly.
However, all that they get in love isone-time sex or transient affair that lasts no more than one week. Why it happens? It's simple. Home bunny is impossibly boring, so men run away from them at breakneck speed so as not to get bogged down in this ideal swamp.
In fairness it is worth noting that these are twooutwardly different female types. But they are so similar in their characteristics that we decided to combine them into one. The first type is simply obsessed with beauty. These ladies spend all their free time in salons, build up everything that is possible, and have downright carrot-colored skin because of the constant tanning in the tanning salon. Beauties spend all the money on newfangled beauty products and new things, and often they don’t even have money to live on. That, however, does not upset them, because they have hair extensions and eyelashes.
But the Beast does not know how to care for themselves.She constantly bites her nails, combs her hair with fives, and washes with tar soap. This girl walks in worn and dirty clothes, besides often has excess weight.
We think it is not worth mentioning that men simply shy away from these types of characters as if from fire.
This girl can be found in any malethe company. The girl thinks that the best way to conquer a guy is to become “his own board”, dividing absolutely all men's hobbies. She enjoys football, drinks beer, smokes and can beat any man in a computer game.
She is always aware of who, where and when of her friends.started a novel. And often she even knows all the intimate secrets of the newly-wed couple. However, the Girl herself never manages to become the object of attention of his male friends. They perceive her as a guy in a skirt and with female forms, so they don’t hurry to build relationships.
She is not at allthinks about their love failures. She simply has no time to do it, because she has only a career on her mind that you need to manage to build up to a certain age.
And only sometimes closer to the night when in the heat of the workersthe battles at the careerist give free time, she understands that life is not quite right, and something urgently needs to be changed. However, soon the long-term lack of sleep makes itself felt, and the girl literally falls asleep. Well, she can not make time for love, can not!
Very often women are so addicted to search.love that they do not even notice, as they attack the same rake, which prevent them from building sincere and strong relations. But in fact, it is worth only analyzing all of your love failures in order to reveal the trail of fatal mistakes stretching from one relationship to another, easily destroying nascent love. Look and listen to yourself, perhaps these are the mistakes you make:
If you are able to get rid of these errors in behavior with the opposite sex, you will most likely be able to find love and happiness.
How can you find a simple female happiness?Indeed, without love, not a single representative of the beautiful half of humanity represents her life. Perhaps our advice will seem simple to you, but, as practice shows, it is in simplicity that the most profound meaning lies:
Если вам не везет в любви, не отчаивайтесь.Do not blame others for their failures and troubles. Just do some serious work on yourself, change, and then love itself will knock at your house to live in it forever.
