Tajik wedding is traditionally celebrated with sucha big deal that it became a real national problem. Even the president addressed his people with a speech, calling for cutting the cost of the celebration, not taking huge loans that are being extinguished for decades. Will they listen to him? Time will tell.
And now let's talk, what traditions require such huge funds, and how to organize a wedding in Tajik.
If you observe all the traditions and rituals, then the celebration will take more than one day, and even more than one week.
As in most Islamic countries,Tajik parents themselves choose their children. They decide this among themselves, agree to arrange a wedding and send matchmakers. And the future bridegroom can learn about this only a month after the matchmaking, the day of the engagement.
His mother goes to the bride's house in the evening and carriesa plov dish with a flat cake. For her, a gala dinner is organized in which the elders of the clan and numerous guests are announced an engagement. This is accompanied by prayers and breaking a flat cake. Now the young are considered the official bride and groom.
Tajik wedding traditionally does not do withoutthe delivery of kalym to the parents of the future wife. No matter how poor the groom, he must present precious gifts, and only after that the day of the future marriage is appointed, most often - in the autumn.
The Tajik bride rarely has a question likecorrectly choose a wedding dress, because the rituals suggest traditional clothes, albeit not very comfortable. Moreover, according to tradition, this wedding dress should be worn by a young wife 40 days after the wedding.
State registration of marriage is not mandatory, but without a ritual "nikokh" a Tajik wedding can not do.
On this day in the morning in the families of young people are treatedplov all the village. The festive feast lasts until the evening, and at this time the bride and groom prepare for the wedding - each in his own house. The bride is dressed in traditional wedding clothes, and she awaits the arrival of the groom. In a prominent place all her outfits and special amulets are hanging out: red pepper for protection from evil spirits, a spoon for the birth of a daughter-housewife and a knife for the birth of a brave son-warrior.
When the groom arrives, the bride comes to himsurrounded by girlfriends, call the mullah for the ritual of marriage. He reads to young people special lines from the Koran, prays, takes seven shawls from the bride in turn, and the groom confirms his consent to marriage each time. After that, newlyweds drink water from one cup, and now they are officially considered husband and wife. The husband is obliged to protect his family and provide it, and the wife must obey her husband in everything.
The Tajik wedding continues with a feast,which lasts three days in the house of the bride, and three more days in the groom's house. A thousand guests - this is the usual scope for such a holiday. If 200-300 people are invited, then the Tajik wedding is considered very modest.
Tables must be set with food so thatthere was no empty space left. Even if guests can not eat everything and the food spoils - it does not matter. Tajiks are very afraid of condemnation from neighbors and acquaintances, therefore they try to show guests the maximum generosity and luxury.
The most traditional dish, without which no holiday passes - it's pilaf. But they serve it only at the end of the feast, when the guests are going to go home.
The role of the toastmaster is played by Baiderhan - the elderlyRespected man. He should be able to beautifully and figuratively pronounce toasts, give the floor to all guests, give signals for the conduct of folk games and dances.
On the third day of the wedding, Baiderkhan takes pictures ofbride's veil - this means the beginning of a new life for her. After that, the holiday moves to the house of the young husband. On the sixth day of the wedding, the bride's relatives come to the groom's house and spend the night there - thus ending a long rite.
Tajik wedding, like any other,ends with a honeymoon. It lasts too very long - forty days. But the young do not go to exotic countries, but spend this time in the house of a young husband, under the same roof as his parents. It is believed that this helps to save the family from the first quarrels and problems.
If we calculate the total time of all weddingrituals, they take almost two months. And the list of financial costs includes not only the generous treats of numerous guests, but also the transfer of kalym, gifts to the bride, expensive wedding dresses, decorating the house. Therefore, the Tajik wedding is more than a serious event, the divorce after which occurs only in isolated cases.
