And today, and in ancient times, constantlythe theme of family life was discussed. How to find the right way to marriage? How to save the family? How to avoid mistakes and learn to come on time to a common opinion? This was often said at the time of Patriarch Nikon, they say to this day.
The marriage of convenience was always rejected by the Orthodoxthe church as originally doomed to decay, because in such a relationship is already at the very beginning of falsehood. As a rule, bargaining in marital relations is impossible! Imagine that using your beauty or material and high position, you simply can not keep your partner throughout life, because sooner or later another woman may appear, ready to offer her youth and beauty in return for marriage. Will your spouse be able to stand in this case?
In general, all the love, oddly enough, you candivided into two categories: from God and demonic. Divine love is sent down by Jesus Christ our God, who bequeathed to love each other until his death.
Demonic love is characterized by its emotionality, sharpness, impatience of each other's shortcomings. At the beginning of such love lies selfishness.
The wife of Patriarch Nikon went to the monastery after taking tonsure in the monks of her husband. This is the real true feeling of the two people who are crowned by Christ.
Of course, at the initial stage of the relationship andfamily, and relationships in general, a man and a woman are not yet connected by deep feelings, but with love and attraction. Whatever it was, but such feelings can not be called love. True, perfect love is evolving over time, and this is quite difficult and painful. It is not without reason that they say that the family is a great work. Over time, the husband and wife begin to feel the unity of the soul, the common vocation and the whole of one another.
The Apostle Paul also said that at the head of the familythere must always be a man, and Christ is always above the man. Thus, the center of the family is Jesus. That is why the family should change from the point of view of the Christian way of life.
Of course, not many can do the same asthe wife of Patriarch Nikon. But it is not self-denial that underlies the family. At the heart of the marriage, there is always mutual understanding and patience for the shortcomings of each other. Only by observing these rules can you achieve a lot and really productively live your family life, which will take place next to a loved and appreciated person.
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