This is now a large family a rarity.Sometimes people do not even think that, in addition to her husband and his parents, there are other relatives. And in ancient times, when there were a lot of children in families, each of the new relatives received their “rank” and their duties towards the daughter-in-law.
Young after the wedding is not only her husband.Together with him she gets his blood relatives. If the husband has a brother (s), he will be her husband. His children are nephews. But such a rare word "yatrovka" was determined wife of her husband's brother. What is it currently called? Now the concept of "daughter-in-law" is increasingly used. A daughter-in-law is a woman for all members of her husband's family. But in relation to each other, two daughters-in-law become yatrovkami.
The origin of the word devier
It is believed that this concept arose a long time ago.It has Indo-European roots. Similar in meaning and sound concepts are found in Greek and Indian languages. The husband's brother for his wife in Lithuania is called dieveris. It sounds almost the same as in Russian. Greeks have a husband husband for a wife - daer. Also there is a similarity.
Russian folk traditions
While.when all the relatives lived in a big happy family, certain traditions were developed in the relationship. If there are a lot of unpleasant sayings and suggestions about sister-in-law, then they spoke more cautiously about deveri. Perhaps this is due to the tradition by which the brother was to marry the wife of the deceased relative. In this case, the husband's brother for the wife became a potential spouse. We should have treated him accordingly, trying to establish good relations “just in case”. If a woman became a widow, then not only her well-being, but the well-being of her children directly depended on this relative.
Modern Relationships
Now we are far from the traditions of the past.No one forces you to take the wife of a deceased brother into your family. But some of the best features of the old tradition are still alive. So, it is customary to support the family of the deceased relative. In some cases, the husband's brother for the wife becomes the only hope and support when the misfortune comes. But it's not worth waiting for trouble. We need to take care that life does not throw close people in different directions. A lot in building a close-knit family depends on the wives of the brothers. Young people brought up by their parents often compete with each other. This confrontation can reach incredible proportions (down to stupid, unexplained quarrels). Here, all the cards in hand young. Not just the spouse himself,
A few tips from the wise mother
It is not necessary to get involved in the relationship between her husband and hisrelatives without an invitation. He built them for a very long time, in one fell swoop it is usually very difficult to solve problems. The best situation is when the brother of a husband for a wife becomes a true friend. But to overdo it, trying to achieve a result, is not recommended. Excessive friendliness on the part of the young spouse may be misinterpreted, then not far from the scandals and jealousy.
