Not everyone has enough education and tact worthyto leave, to leave someone's life, not slamming the door and leaving it behind, but leaving behind a clean, orderly and bright memories. And sometimes you do not have the courage to talk with a loved one once, face to face, so in that case you can write a letter to a friend who will dot all the i's. Of course, this is not the best way out and not the most worthy way to say goodbye, but sometimes there are no other options.
How should a farewell letter look like to a friend?Here, various hearts and flowers will not be appropriate, drops of tears and inscriptions with blood will also look pathetic and stupid. Although everyone has his own style of communication and manner of parting. A letter to a friend, with whom you no longer see, should be laconic, bright and honest. In it there should be no insults, humiliations, all kinds of mucks. For all this will later be ashamed and want to change everything. A letter to that and a letter that you can think everything over, weigh, pick up beautiful words.
Now we should discuss two options for the farewellletters. In the first case, it is you who are the victim. For example, you are offended, humiliated, changed, betrayed, trampled, and you want to break up the relationship, but explaining how painful and bad it is for you. The second option is much more difficult: the victim is not you. You will have to explain why you throw a loved one. And it will have to be done as correctly as possible, without giving up hope, without giving a chance for a revival of relations, otherwise it will be meanly on your part.
In the first case, a letter to a friend who turned out to bea traitor, should not seem pathetic. You should not burst into tears, arrange a sincere striptease and turn the soul inside out. Most likely, you just laugh again. We must accurately, precisely, coolly, with a fair amount of sarcasm to explain to a person that he is no longer interesting to you and that you would like to quietly and peacefully cease all relationships. It is not necessary to enter into any skirmishes and correspondence, this will not lead to anything good. You can just write it on paper and hand it in person, and not send it to the expanses of social networks, you can put it under the Christmas tree a la "New Year's letter to a friend who does not belong in my life," or you can send a letter by mail. To address to the addressee is better officially (for example, Sergey, Katerina, Olga), do not use diminutive names and do not sink to insults. A few suggestions are enough to ask you never to disturb you again.
In the second case, you need to carefully prepare.After all, you will act as an apostate. You will have to try as much as possible to smooth out the pain that a friend who received this letter will experience. It should be noted and noted that throw someone through letters or correspondence is somehow low, so it will be great if you still get the courage and talk to the person in person. If bravery is not your hobby, you can limit yourself to writing. A former friend, reading your message, should not earn additional complexes and phobias, so it would be nice to explain to him that he is a fine person, and you are the culprit of parting, because "..." (further arguments can follow).
You can, of course, turn to the experience of the classics:read Marquez, Zweig, Pushkin, Esenin, and many other writers who raised the theme of the farewell letter. This will help to tune in to the wave of parting, to understand that you are not alone in this world, that through this difficult life stage, other people, including talented writers, famous actors, rock musicians and athletes, also took part. Parting is always a loss, a loss, tears and pain, but there, beyond the horizon, a new life looms, full of new acquaintances and adventures. A letter to a friend, even a former one, should be just a ferry that will take you from one shore of life to another. Do not be afraid to burn bridges, do not turn back, because life is so beautiful, if in the soul you feel that you are doing the right thing.
