Parting is painful at any age, and the gapestablished, strong marital relations more morbidly doubly. How can a woman survive a divorce? How to forget the ex-husband? Councils of psychologists, recommendations for the restoration of their own forces after the loss of relations are given below.
There are many reasons for divorce.This may be incompatibility of characters, betrayal of a spouse (spouse), alcoholism and drug addiction, gambling. Avoiding divorce for these reasons is impossible, and if the marriage is still preserved, then the relationship will be far from normal. Therefore, before going to the registrar should better know your partner.
It is possible to avoid breaking up relations only whenmutual desire of partners to save the family. If self-work on oneself does not help the spouses come to mutual understanding, then the family psychologist's consultation will help them.
"I can not forget my ex-husband, what should I do?"- such a question is asked by women who are confronted with the betrayal of a beloved spouse and his departure for a mistress. Why can not they let her husband go? It's not just about the joint children and the feelings of the ex-wife. When a man trades a family hearth for a relationship with another woman, his former lover is jealous. And it is not so much jealousy in its usual manifestation, as jealousy from what no longer can "possess" already become a native person.
Women with a heightened sense of ownershipharder to endure a divorce. For a certain period of time the pain of parting ceases, but after mentioning the former husband or meeting with him, the woman again experiences a painful prick of jealousy.
How to forget the ex-husband?The advice of the mother and close friends is practically powerless. A woman after leaving her beloved husband to another requires work on themselves, awareness and elimination of their shortcomings. However, she should not think that something is worse than that other woman. She needs to understand that she is not better than her, she's just different. With a different character, appearance and way of life.
Psychology helps to overcome the thorny path fromdivorce to a new relationship and a normal life. Closed representatives of the weaker sex, as well as unnecessarily emotional, need conversations with a psychologist. Consultations will help to get rid of negative emotions, gain self-confidence.
It is not necessary to resort to the services of a professional,it is enough to hold a conversation with a loved one. Self-diagnosis using the tips below will also help you recover faster after parting with your lover.
When marriages are destroyed, children suffer moreTotal. They do not understand what is happening to their parents, while they feel their pain and emotions. Women in this situation should remain calm and minimize conversations about divorce in the child, as any negative affects its development.
After the divorce, do not lose touch with the formerpartner, even though it is more difficult to forget her husband. There is a child - let the spouse communicate with the baby, do not interfere with their friendship. Forget about your own feelings and desire to puncture the offender. Try and establish a friendly relationship with your former lover. Explain to him that you do not owe anything to each other, but you both must give your daughter (son) a normal childhood and growing up, despite disagreements.
Regardless of the sex of the child, he will always beneed a father. Undoubtedly, if the reason for the divorce was drunkenness or drug dependence of the spouse, then his communication with the baby should be minimized. At least until the father is completely cured of addiction.
If a man refuses to raise a childafter the divorce and completely disappears from your life, then look for him and force him to communicate with his son or daughter is not worth it. It takes you a lot of time and nerves, and can also hurt the psyche of the baby.
Divorce never passes unnoticed.Women acutely perceive the loss of stable, time-tested relationships. Especially in situations where they are left alone with their own pain. If there is no support from relatives and close friends, then psychological help should be provided to yourself.
Step by step you will feelmore confident, and affection for the former spouse will gradually come to naught. But do not hope that everything will happen quickly. In order to "withdraw" still a loved one from thoughts, as well as open up for a new relationship, take time.
How to forget the ex-husband?Get rid of things and things that are reminiscent of him. Start with general photos, his gifts, letters and poems written for you. Review them, re-read, and now remember how he treated you. Storm of negative emotions aim at destroying everything that once united you. Digital photos and video erase from the computer, remove from the desktop its image.
Paper photos are broken and discarded inchute, letters - burn. Looking at the fire, imagine how, along with the burning paper, your feelings "burn out". If you want, weep for good, beat the dishes. But remember that you need to do this in the absence of children. Do not you want to be alone? Call on the help of a person close to you.
How can I quickly forget my ex-husband?Make repairs in an apartment or house. Furniture, curtains, wallpaper - all this must be changed necessarily. Rip off the wall cover, cut the curtains and old tulle. Bed, on which you spent so many joint nights with your ex-husband, give to those in need. Do not leave anything that can remind you of him. Share the dishes, and break his favorite cup (plate).
How to forget your beloved ex-husband?Change the appearance. Changes in appearance will help to transform internally and facilitate the process of weaning from past relationships. Change your hairstyle, throw it out, or hand out old things from your own wardrobe. Have you ever worn high-heeled shoes? Buy them and put on a beautiful dress. Remember, divorce for you is not hopelessness and eternal loneliness. It is a holiday, the beginning of a new and interesting life.
How to forget the ex-husband? Relax your soul and body.Visit the spa, yoga. If you have children, go with them to the entertainment center, go to nature. Have a rest there where you would like to always visit.
Take a vacation at work and try to sleep as much as possible. Sleep is the best medicine not only during illness, but also after a break in the relationship.
Strong activity dulls the pain of partingand does not allow to be distracted on meditations about the spouse. How to forget the ex-husband? Organize your day in such a way that there is no room for thinking about your beloved. Spend more time with your children, friends and relatives.
Go in for sports. Training will not only distract you from emotional pain, but will also help you become more confident and attractive. For a splash of negative emotions, you can attend classes in hand-to-hand combat.
Climb to the mountain, jump with a parachute, get a charge of adrenaline and positive emotions. This will help to recover and be distracted from problems.
Mark positive moments for yourself that are free fromhusband of life. Now you do not need to report to your spouse for the delay at work and to go out for a get-together with friends in a cafe. From now on you are a free woman.
Even if you have children with your ex-husband,this does not mean that you have to confine yourself to your maternal responsibilities. Do not try to replace the baby dad. And remember that the kid should see you happy and cheerful.
Forever forget the former husband is not all.Only new relationships are able to supplant the feelings that a woman felt for an ex-spouse. However, you should not hurry to start dating with men immediately after a painful divorce, because it is during this period that the woman is most vulnerable. The usual compliment and support can be regarded as a manifestation of sympathy, and the lady is completely liable to the "charms" of the new partner. When the shroud with her eyes falls, she can be very disappointed to those who are with her.
A common mistake of some divorcedwomen in that, instead of having a break from previous relationships, they tend to drown out the pain and anguish with the embraces of new gentlemen. Ladies in vain spend themselves on casual communications, and then feel exhausted and lonely. Do not rush, in your life there will be that man who will make your heart beat harder. Soon, but not now.
Flirt with men, communicate with them, butonly not on equal terms. You will feel that you like the opposite sex, and this is another small step to a normal life after a divorce. An easy service romance without intimacy and commitment will help you become more self-confident.
Divorced mothers in the matter of new relationshipsyou need to be extremely careful. They should choose not so much a sexual partner as a friend and companion. A man should take a foreign child as his own and bring up, not stopping his communication with his father (if he himself expresses the desire to communicate).
There is one main rule for mothers -Never bring your unfamiliar man into your home and do not force the child to take it. Here everything should be gradual. Find out more closely your potential partner and only then acquaint him with the baby. The child should be comfortable with it. Never place your own interests above the interests of your son or daughter. Children are better at understanding people than adults. Therefore, listen to the opinion of the child.
Do not look for the character of other men the same features as in the character of the ex-husband. New relationships are given to forget the past and live the present.
