To woo the bride or groom is a very ancient custom.And in each historical epoch the matchmaking scenario was characterized by its own features and nuances. For example, the services of matchmakers became relevant only from the end of the 17th century, before they were managed on their own.
At an earlier time, matchmakers were sent everywhere.This is not the same as the matchmaker. Matchmakers are relatives or close friends of the groom, and they represented only his interests. Woo in the name of the bride was not accepted. The initiative on her part was manifested in the preliminary agreement of the parents, which resulted in the visit of the matchmakers.
The customs of matchmaking changed from century to century along withliving conditions. Therefore, today it makes sense to use the scenario of modern matchmaking, and not to try to achieve authenticity, because this custom has no common foundations or traditions that have remained unchanged for centuries.
In today's world, matchmaking is often confused with the proposal of a hand and heart. These are completely different customs. They have different origins, history, traditions and all the other nuances that characterize ritual.
Without going into details, you can reduce these differences to the main point - matchmaking is a request for a hand and a heart addressed to parents, and the proposal concerns only two lovers.
Если в старину брак был не только соединением two loving hearts, but also a favorable union for both families, which has always voiced the matchmaking scenario, nowadays everything is different. However, a change in the conventions that accompany the conclusion of a marriage union does not at all make custom unnecessary.
Today's matchmaking scenario by the groom- a modern and original way to get acquainted with the family of the chosen one. In addition, you can not be limited to personal acquaintance. Quite often, both families meet each other at matchmaking.
The modern matchmaking scenario does not make a fundamental difference between the future bride and groom. That is, who will woo whom, the only difference is in spoken words, jokes and gifts.
Even the modern script of matchmaking, short and completely symbolic, implies the observance of several rules:
In the case when a girl is wooed, the same rules apply, with the only difference that you do not need to buy flowers for the groom.
Шутовское сватовство уместно в случае student weddings. When matchmakers, the groom or bride himself does not come to his parents, but to his friends. Such a holiday should really be filled with humor, fun, sweepstakes and all the rest.
If classic matchmaking is to come,the script with humor should be used only knowing how it will be perceived by parents and grandparents. If you want to make matchmaking fun, you can resort to jokes that are understandable to all generations, use chastooshkas and read funny quatrains.
A playful and cheerful script of matchmaking on the part of the groom with the words “You have the goods - we are a merchant” will not leave anyone indifferent among the members of the bride’s family, regardless of age.
For this kind of matchmaking you need costumesIt is advisable to use a bear (of course, a mumbler!), harmonicas and other attributes. Coming should be noisy crowd, but commensurate with the living conditions of the bride. Or just to spend a holiday in the yard, in the country or in a cafe.
The bride's family should be ready for the visit. After the matchmaking ceremony, the mother of the future wife should invite all those present at the holiday table.
The joking amusing script of matchmaking by the groom should include:
A good option would be a script in whichthe groom will be dressed up as a bear, for which they will woo the girl. Remove the costume should be when consent is obtained, but before that the family members of the bride must solve the riddle, the meaning of which is to answer who is hiding under the costume of the bear.
Matchmaking scenario does not imply excessivetightness. In the old days, the “presenting ceremony” lasted no more than a couple of hours, after which the father of the future wife and the groom’s representatives retired to discuss what they would call “commodity-money interests”, and the bride’s mother treated the rest of the company.
Discussion of dowry, residence, foreclosure andother moments could be delayed for the whole day. The festive feast began only after the matchmakers and the father of the bride agreed on everything. Only in this case, matchmaking became successful.
That is why it was customary to send matchmakers in the morning, and the feast always ended after dark.
Now everything is different - should not last morehours script matchmaking by the groom. The short ones, which fit in a few minutes of the ceremony, are also not appropriate, since they deprive the holiday of its unique color. Yes, and when conducting a comic matchmaking ceremony too fast will not allow plenty of laugh.
Humorous matchmaking words in a script caninclude any, but you need to start with traditional phrases. When thinking over the replicas, we should not forget that all references to the receiving party are addressed only to the girl’s parents, and not to herself.
A funny script of matchmaking by the groom might be:
Участвует 4 человека. Жених в костюме медведя.Two "well done" with accordions or tambourines for the entourage, they also carry baskets with sweets, flowers and gifts. One is a “solid matchmaker.” All participants - in Russian costumes, except the groom, of course.
When approaching the house the girls need to make a lot of noise so that the parents go out on the porch. If this is a modern apartment building, then the bride’s family can meet the matchmakers in the courtyard.
Two young men: "You have the goods - we have a merchant."
The response of the host.
Swat: "We have a sultry young man, come to fear, mother hesitates."
Answer mother of the bride.
Swat: "Take out the boys for the mother of bling".
A gift is given and is given with a replica accompanying the content.
Swat: "Do not be silent father, to the liking of our fellow?".
A bear comes forward and does something, you can dance a lambada or jump. The main thing is for everyone to laugh.
Swat: "The boys are rampant, a gift from his father from the father."
A gift is given to the girl's father and given with a cue, reflecting the content of the present.
If the family has grandparents, brothers or sisters, then you need to give everyone a gift.
Swat: “Our young man shall come to the court, let us not let him under the crown. Solve first what it means. "
Any riddles, simple and preferably with humor are solved. The first one to answer gets candy as a prize.
Swat: "Let us go down the aisle, will the young man suit you?"
A bear comes forward and depicts something - you can take the pose of a bodybuilder or bow. After an affirmative answer, the matchmaker sets the last riddle.
Swat: “They took the wild beast, got the guy quiet. But whom? ”
After the correct answer, the groom removes the fancy dress and only at this moment gives flowers to the future mother-in-law and the bride.
Between the replicas of the matchmaker there should be any chastooshkas or just a sound of harmonicas. The whole ceremony should be dynamic, noisy and fun.
The bride's matchmaking scenario must take into account the mentality of the groom's parents. The fact is that not every future mother-in-law will positively accept such a girl's initiative.
If limited to classic and boringthere is no desire in the evening in a restaurant with future relatives, it should be remembered that the script of the bride's matchmaking does not provide for such a custom as the bride and take a chance.
Women's matchmaking can be any, the simplest - to send matchmakers. Of course, their own girlfriends or relatives. Dressed up or not, it already depends on personal preference.
In the past, women's matchmaking included several points:
The meaning of these gifts was to show the girl's skills needed in family life.
Now, of course, you should not give old tablecloths or sew scarves, but you can and even need to beat the traditional elements of women's matchmaking.
In general, the matchmaking scenario of the bride is similar to what the groom does. For a holiday with the humor, you can use theatrical or clown costumes, dress up, for example, Baba Yaga.
Quite interesting will be matchmaking in the gangster style with elements of the grotesque. It sounds serious, but in fact everything is very simple and funny.
This holiday will require a couple of strong men in gangster suits and with appropriate attributes, a “deaf” car, soft handcuffs and a silk bag.
In the course of upcoming events should be allexcept the future mother-in-law. Gangsters catch it on the street, that is, kidnap. The car needs to be overtaken in the courtyard to the groom's house, but the mother-in-law should not see this, so they put a bag on her head, and if the lady resists, use handcuffs.
All the way, the gangsters communicate with each other in the Italian "mafia". That is, any nonsense will do, but it should sound like a text from an Italian film.
A girl must save her mother-in-law, defeat the bandits and give a future relative a bouquet of flowers, asking permission to marry her son.
Similar thematic variants of matchmaking are offered by many agencies that organize holidays, but you can embody something similar on your own.
But before you decide to draw atmatchmaking, it is necessary to talk with the future father-in-law and find out how the groom's mother will react to such a ritual of acquaintance. At the same time, it is also necessary to clarify whether there are any obstacles for a woman’s health to play. For example, if a future mother-in-law has diabetes or a heart that is not quite healthy, such ideas should be abandoned.
The imitation of a gypsy camp or a group of shepherds is invariably a popular variant of women's matchmaking. For this, too, need costumes.
The text that is spoken by the girl or the girl herself is not limited to anything, except that you should contact the parents of the future husband, and not to him.
Joking matchmaking by the girl can take place without extreme or theatrical receptions.
For example, in the Slavic style it might look like this:
4 people are participating. All girls are equally or similarly dressed. Each in his hands on a closed basket. Replicas speak in turn all but the bride.
Svaty: "Good afternoon, (the names and patronymic of the parents, followed by the rest of the family)".
Response replica.
Svaty: “You live and you live, you make good. And good to you and stretches. Not by empty-handed, we are walking past, we bring you gifts. ”
It is necessary to distribute gifts to all members of the groom's family. Gifts should be small, symbolic and packed in boxes with ribbons.
Swati: "Do you like ribbons?" Shita red maiden (name of the bride) ".
Response replica.
Swati: “Dawn is sloping, I want to eat. There is a loaf for you, not one edge has burned down. ”
A big cake, a cake, a real loaf is being presented. The main thing is that he does not lose the presentation in the basket.
Swati: “Is our loaf tasty for you? Pechen red maiden (name of the bride) ".
Response replica.
And so on.The point is that the gift is given and it is said that this is done by the bride. Of course, all the presented dishes or things must demonstrate the skills of the girl and her talents that are necessary in marriage. To present a picture and tell how wonderful the bride draws is not necessary. But to give a jar of salted mushrooms, jams, liqueurs, and similar gifts - appropriate.
Concluding the series of praises of the future wife, one should smoothly approach the purpose of the visit.
Swati: "Our (the name of the bride) is a beautiful maiden, the craftsman of all trades. Yes, everything falls out of my hands, my eyes fog. ”
It is necessary to sustain a pause or wait for the replica of the host side.
Сватьи:“A girl was walking over (the name of the bride) across the bridge, twisting her braid. A fellow sped, and would go down the aisle. Only he did not see the girl did not notice. Maet's heart is waving, there’s no end to it. All having learned about the young man, they came to woo, but to show off the bride. ”
The future wife goes ahead and gives the groom's mother a bouquet of flowers.
A similar variant of female matchmaking may contain jokes or funny chastooshkas, but you should be careful about their choice.
Главное в сватовстве девушки к будущему жениху – make a good impression on the future mother-in-law. Although in the modern world brides rarely think about this moment, but since ancient times the marriage has always proceeded precisely from this nuance.
Today it’s important not to demonstrate the skills of the future wife, but what impression it will make.
Accordingly, every little thing needs to be considered.The outfits of the svaty and the bride herself should not be provocative, outspoken, arrogant, unnecessarily expensive or, on the contrary, everyday, athletic, tasteless. The best option would be simple dresses of delicate and conservative colors.
The same applies to makeup. If the matchmaking is not carried out in a funny manner using theatrical techniques, then the makeup should be modest, daytime, without the use of bright blush or lipstick.
Trying to make a good impression hasmeaning today, because the family is not only two newlyweds and their future children. It is also the parents of both spouses, their grandparents and other relatives.
